The Act is More Important than the Ring
If we are to believe movies and television, us girls want the rock and we want it big. Yes, give us that ring, and make it big or take a hike. As Beyonce says: Put a ring on it. As a guy I'm sure you've seen it in television or in movies, the scene where the guy pulls out one of those palladium engagement rings or benchmark wedding bands, and the girl goes "Oh my god, I thought it would be bigger" and then storms out of the restaurant. Yeah, of course you have. She's typically a villain in a romantic comedy, and sadly that type of character drives most men to believe that we only want one thing.
Of course, there are women like that. Just like there are men who care more about their abs then their kids. But most women out there care about the act way more than the actual ring. Sure, we might have our moments, but for me the best part of getting married was actually, shock, getting married. I frankly didn't need the ring, I just needed the act. This might put me at a minority, but there are probably a lot more women like me then you might think.
I think part of the problem is that men confuse our personal likes and dislikes in a ring with our love for the act. Let me explain: if I bought my husband a car, but I bought him a car he didn't particularly like, he would be happy that I surprised him with a car but still a bit disappointed that I didn't buy him one that he likes. As a woman, we have likes and dislikes in what kind of jewelry we like. If I hate diamonds and I guy gets me an engagement ring with diamonds, am I going to love what it symbolizes? Of course. But am I going to be a bit disappointed that I have to wear a ring I hate the look of? Well, kinda, yeah. But, will I tell him this and ruin his special moment. Hell no. That's where I differ, I guess. If I know he bought it with loving intensions then that's usually better then my favorite ring in the entire world.
A note to guys, though: typically you know what your girlfriend likes and dislikes, so if you're going to pop the question then get her a ring that you know she will like. It's not that hard, if you know enough about her to wed her I'm sure you know enough to buy her a ring she really likes. Oh, and if she storms out of the building if you got her the wrong ring? Well, she's not right for you anyway. You dodged a bullet there.
About the Author
Author Kimberly Green feels that you should get benchmark wedding bands if you know that's what you're significant other wants.
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