"I Have No Idea"
This is a response I've found myself giving a lot in my life lately, not so much because I'm not smart or educated (Cal State Education, yea!), but because I've found my friends asking me a lot of unanswerable questions recently. I'm guessing these questions just tend to come with age because life becomes more complex. I remember typically having the answers when I was younger, but looking back I'm sure questions like "what do you want for lunch" or "did you see that cute guy over there" are pretty answerable.
No, at this age people are typically going through big life changes daily. I have a friend the other day who is getting married ask me if he should get one of those benchmark wedding bands or just stick with a standard gold one? "I have no idea", I responded, because frankly I don't know. I told him to just try and think about what her fiancée would like. The look on his face seemed to imply that he would of rather of had me give an answer, you know, that pained half smile like "Well, it would have been easier if you just gave me point-on-point instructions on what to do". I feel for him, I really do, but I have my own things to worry about. Plus, it really is easy if you just think about what your significant other likes in her regular jewelry.
By the way, just an aside, I've always thought that the phrase "I have no idea" is a lot nicer then the phrase "I don't know". The ladder phrase makes it sound like your just being lazy while "I have no idea" makes it sound like you at least scanned your brain before giving the answer. Since most of the questions people ask me seem to be unanswerable or deeply personal ("Do you think I should have another kid") anyway I don't feel bad about not giving an answer.
Also, I feel like a lot of the questions that I'm asked to answer also put me in the line of blame. Take the wedding band question for instance: if I were to give an answer and it turns out the fiancée hated the ring then I would, at least partly, be on the hook for as long as the ring existed. It's better that he gives the answer and can either live with the glory or blame. I know, I know, but c'mon, you know I'm right?
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Kimberly Green advocates talking with your fiancee when selecting benchmark wedding bands.
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